Saturday, August 18, 2012

Doubt

Days like yesterday and today make me doubt I can really do it: be the mom I want to be. Harper has been throwing one tantrum after the other and whining for the rest of it. His tantrums sometimes take a lot of time and attention, leaving poor Wren to cry to tears. I feel good physically but feel very drained emotionally without enough energy to do more than survive. I knew it would be tough to balance a toddler and newborn, but I didn't know it would be this tough.

I cried yesterday and today. It felt good to let those feelings of helplessness and exhaustion out. But I also cried because I want to be better. I don't want to lose it with Harper. I want Wren to feel as loved as Harper did when he was the only one. I have two beautiful children. Two beautiful gifts from God. I don't want to take them for granted. I'm not sure what's next or how to best help Harper through this transition, but I'm going to try, and I'm going to do my best. I love them so much.



4 comments:

Kristen said...

You are a wonderful mother Alyssa, and I know you will make it through this time being the better for it. Just keep loving those precious gifts from God and he will direct you in the way to go! Love you lots! ~Kristen

corynn.koch said...

Yes! You are a fabulous mom. This is a tough time, but you'll get through it! I will come pick up Harper sometime soon so that he can have some one-on-one time too. :)

Kati and Chris said...

Hang in there Alyssa! I don't know what it is like to have a newborn and a toddler, but just having a toddler is enough to drive me nuts some days. They don't call it terrible twos for nothing!

And remember, even though it doesn't feel like it, it WILL get better.

Alyssa said...

Thanks everyone. We've had a couple really good days recently. They're good reminders of how sweet and good Harper usually is. I really appreciate all the encouragement!